Wetter ... Can we do better?

I have two young teenage girls. Yesterday I was driving them to their friend's house when this song came on their favorite radio station - "Wetter" by Twista. The female voice sang "I need a daddy, will you be my daddy?" and "come and make it rain on me." Then Twista says,

"I ain't stoppin til you wet up the covers. Because I gotta keep on fuckin til I see a lot of white stuff .... Don't think I can get it wet? I told you. Come and let the Twist rain down on you"

Do you think I should let my girls hear this music? I know their favorite station is aimed at teenagers because the DJs were giggling and playing rude prank calls between the songs.

Young people who are waking up to sexuality will come away with an oppressive view of sex if they are schooled in the art by mainstream bling rappers.

It's sad that the record labels and broadcasters market these songs to young teens. "Wetter" by Twista is a top song the teen stations are playing constantly right now and it glorifies the idea of having sex with your father.

Our society is presenting our teens and young adults with more radically perverse content than ever before and the speed seems to be picking up. We could try to shelter our young people from all of the oppressive things in the world, a chore that would take round-the-clock monitoring and fail if they interact with friends who expose them anyway.

Another option is to deal with the issue directly. You can build a solid foundation with your daughters by clearly communicating with them about sexuality, ethics, respect, intimacy, and all of the beautiful and positive aspects of sex and sexual relationships, as well as the risks and safety issues. Then when society's perverse version of sexuality rares its ugly head, you and your daughters will have a strong context for a direct conversation about the lyrics. If you teach them how to love themselves and their sexuality, they might surprise you and critically evaluate the lyrics before you can even open your mouth to express an opinion.

This advice applies equally to adults. A solid foundation in respect, intimacy, ethics and self-love allows adults to explore kink without losing moral bearings. Honest, loving conversations with your daughters about the things that make life juicy might create an ideal environment for all of you to grow as you encounter and share new things. Good luck!