Have you ever wanted to have sex with someone but just didn't know what you would say? I am ready for sex in all of its aspects except for the conversation. I don't think I would feel comfortable unless it was scripted, at least loosely. Any tips?
Incredimazing has a chart with your name on it! Just print this simple chart and memorize it or post it on the wall near your romantic encounter. A wonderful sexual experience is virtually guaranteed.
I have this fetish for what I like to call Librarian glasses. You know them glasses that Librarians wear, right? Every girl I date, even if she has perfect vision I try to get her to wear the glasses, just wear the glasses, but no, almost all of them start trippin on me, like "MF I ain't wearing no librarian glasses you freak, what the hell wrong with you?" Then the real librarians, and business type women, they want no part of me. So I keep trying. Is something wrong with meeeee? Thanks in advance.
Thanks for this juicy question. As my guru Dan Savage would say - you sound like you need someone who is GGG. Those who follow Savage Love know that the best lovers are Good, Giving and Game. Mentioning your sweet fetish to your dates is a fantastic way to find out who is GGG and who is not. Those cute chicks who curse at you for suggesting librarian-glasses-foreplay will probably curse louder when you suggest some of your other juicy turn-ons, right? Wouldn't you rather know that they're not game for your fun ideas on the first date? Minimize the time you spend courting the wrong hotties and resolve that you are only going to date sweeties who are GGG. You have the power to make all of your dreams come true. I predict that the universe will miraculously open up and give you exactly what you seek.As for the lovely librarian-ish ladies who liven up your life now, are you sure they want no part of you? ... You might be surprised! ;)
What do you call someone who wears nice suits, has good hair, and likes to exploit other people for personal gain, deriving income from the earnings of those he exploits? This person likes to tell the people he uses for his own ends that he's taking real good care of them.
Texas Governor Rick Perry is the longest serving Governor in Texas history and believes that voters need to reelect him in November, 2010. He represents 25 million Texans and loves to tell us how he protects us, even as his actions favor his own best interest at our expense.
He presides over a tax system that is designed so that working Texans carry an unfair burden and a spending system that is so neglectful that 1 in every 4 Texans lives in poverty. Because of Rick Perry's policies, more Texas children live without health insurance than any other state and we offer our children a failed education system. Our environmental agency doesn't protect the environment, our education agency is removing historical people of color from text books, and our transportation agency is taking people's land by eminent domain like it's going out of style. Governor Perry rejected hundreds of millions of dollars in federal funds that would have helped Texans who recently lost their jobs and also protected businesses from the tax increase that the Governor is giving them right now.
But the Governor outdid himself when he stood in front of Tea Party protesters and said he was giving them love back at the office. Hypocritical talk about the evils of corporate bailouts and the value of the free market, low taxes and individual liberty, when in reality his favorite donors and best friends are the beneficiaries of our tax dollars through huge corporate bailouts to his favorite corporations and hundreds of political appointments to agencies and commissions. Governor Rick Perry, congratulations. We know you already earned a listing in Dikipedia but hope you will cherish this honor none the less - you are The Juicy Truth's official Pimp of the Week!
UPDATE: This just in. The Houston Chronicle reports that Texas taxpayers pay over $275,000.00/year for Governor Perry's rent, chefs and personal butlers. Almost $23k/month in personal living expenses and he also gets lots of bling from donors like free trips to the Bahamas. No wonder you flash down the street with that ostentatious swagger, Guv - while 1 in 4 of your constituents live in poverty, you get to lay up in your pimped out crib eating fresh bonbons.
My sex life is OK but I'm curious about how to make it more fun. Some of my fantasies have taken me in different directions but I don't know whether I'd like to do the things I fantasize about in real life. Do you have any suggestions about how to keep it spicy?
A fun way to learn what turns you on in real life, not just in your imagination, is to run experiments. Experiments are fun because there is no pressure that the whole thing turn out a certain way, but you are sure to get new information. I've mentioned this resource before, but Heather Ash talks about running sexual experiments in her Pixie Solution show on Sexual Integrity and you can listen free online.
First, set your intent. Decide which sex act you want to explore. Do you want to practice receiving or giving (sometimes we're trained just to do one or the other)? Do you want to experiment with a certain kind of role play? Do you want to find out more about your G-spot or P-spot? Do you need one or more partners to conduct this experiment or is this a solo gig? How long do you want the experiment to last - an hour, a few hours? Set measurable limits.
Once you've set your intent, the second step is to create a safe space. You may need to turn off all ringing and buzzing appliances, phones, etc.. Make sure you aren't going to be interrupted. You may want to use ritual to create a sacred space.
The third step is to communicate, communicate, communicate. Be open and honest as the process unfolds. The fourth step is to stay present. This may seem obvious but it's easy to get distracted or let your mind wander. For whatever time you set aside for the experiment, stay present and let it happen.
There are lots of fun ways to ask a partner to experiment with you, even a partner who may seem set in their ways. Chances are the person you have in mind would like to spice things up a bit also. You might start with something like, "You know, it's crazy how important sex is in our society but how little information is out there. I've been curious about trying some new things. Would you be willing to help me practice something with you?" Later you may want to ask, "Want to try it on me?"
We weren't put here to have boring lives. Use experimentation to find out what makes you the hottest and what makes your partners the hottest. The only limit to your options in life are those that you set. Reset your life to Juicy and soak in the fun!
While we're on the subject, please check out this piece of art! I agree with my friend who says it's the vocal harmonies that set this off. What do you think?
Some holes are safer to lap at than others. When it comes to anal oral sex, any tips on keeping the germs in while staying turned on? I'm looking for tips on keeping it sanitary when licking (or playin with) someones toot hole and still having a good time ... what about handy wipes? or rather rim wipes?
Thank you for this question, dear reader. Oral anal sex, anilingus, is a common practice. Like any sex act, there's a risky way and there's a safe way. If you aren't careful, infectious diseases and dangerous bacteria can be transmitted during anal play and can give the person who is exposed an infection. Don't be that person who gets your lovers sick.
To be safe during anilingus, the receiver should clean beforehand by taking a shower or using handy wipes. Baby wipes are good for a lot more than baby bottoms. The giver should wash hands and mouth beforehand and then again afterward before touching other body parts. Barriers are an easy way to be safe and you won't have to interrupt the scene to wash before getting the rest of your play session on. For barriers, the giver can use a dental dam, a non-microwavable piece of Saran Wrap or slip a condom over the tongue. If you put lube between your barrier and the receiver, you will keep the receiver nice and comfortable. Check these resources for more info: the Discovery Sexual Health Center, SexualHealth.com and EverydayHealth.com. Some people think that taking care of safety during sex will put a downer on the experience but folks who have tried both report that sex is hotter when all participants are safe. If you show that you are knowledgeable and careful about protecting your play partner(s) from disease by washing and using barriers, it will inspire confidence and end up making you a more desirable lover. Plus everyone will stay healthy enough to do it again and again and ... you get the picture. ;)
I support gay rights - in fact I support lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transexual, queer, questioning, unsure, intersex, asexual and allies (LGBTTQQUIAA) rights. I can't decide whether I am supposed to go see Sasha Baron Cohen's new movie "Bruno." If I do see it, am I supposed to like it or be offended? What is the appropriate reaction?
Of course there is no appropriate reaction - we must honor our authentic reaction. I LOVED this movie and think that it exposed haters in a way that might provide space for people to question their beliefs. Humor can open mental portals that facts can't dint. At the same time, I have deep respect for those who don't want to see gay men portrayed this way.
Sasha Baron Cohen, you could clarify this - make a statement in support of equal rights and donate some of your dough to the cause. Come on Bruno. Make everyone happy and take a stand!
Ever since high school I haven't been able to figure out what to do with my life. College looks boring but so does everything else. I need an education but all I can think about is finding different ways to make my kinkiest dreams come true. What are my options?
This may be your lucky year, school grrl. How about a degree from Kinky Kollege in Chicago this October? At Kinky Kollege you can study Kurriculum such as S&M 101, Bondage & Shibari, and Beyond the Edge:
"Kinky Kollege is an international pansexual BDSM Event that is dedicated to the Education, Fellowship and Social Interaction of all persons involved in any Leather, Fetish, BDSM or Sexual Alternative Lifestyle regardless of race, religion, gender, or sexual preference. Kinky Kollege educates and promotes the safe, sane and consensual practice of all fetishes and alternative forms of sexual expression."
Living Kink-o-sphere legends will be on the faculty as in Lochai, Fakir, Jay Wiseman, Texas' own Mark Frazier, Fetlife creator John Baku and too many other cool professors to name here. Like I said: You. Chicago. October. I'm not a high school counselor, but something tells me this is just the right post secondary education for you.
What do you get when you need cash, your friend decides she can sell your body for a percentage of the profits, you decide to play along, and you both have a blast as Detroit sex workers?
In this case you get a female pimp and the man is the one who will be getting his hands dirty. HBO's new show Hung, with the tag line "It's hard to make an indecent living," is a beautiful window into sex work showing how a mainstream American might get started. The first episode was broadcast this week, but it looks like this show is going to be a fun light-hearted look at a difficult subject.
Michael Kenneth Williams, who played Omar in The Wire, was correct when he observed that HBO is the jungle and the rest of TV is a zoo. Thank you for bringing us the juiciest subjects, HBO - this blogger will be staying tuned and helping you take a closer look at the realities facing sex workers in America. Tanya Skagle, you poem bread freak, congratulations. You are The Juicy Truth's official Pimp of the Week!
Did you see former President George W. Bush last week on July 4th? He was reduced to speaking for money in a half-empty rodeo arena in a tiny town in rural Oklahoma, squeezed between turtle races and a small fireworks display. Even the locals had no idea why he was there. How did this happen? How was he reduced to such a bit player so quickly?
Great question. A lot of people don't realize that private screenings of this video of George Bush f*cking the world were being held throughout North, South and Central America in 2008, and being passed around on DVD like hotcakes. If you haven't had the pleasure of seeing how the Round 2 winner of the USA Air Sex Championships secretly took down a World Leader ... click play, sit back, and enjoy!
I've been dating a guy for a few months and I'm pretty sure he's starting to think we're exclusive. I love spending time with him and the sex is hot. I don't want to lose him but I don't want to miss out on dating other people either. I'm afraid if I tell him he might end our relationship. I haven't lied to him and we haven't made any promises, we just haven't specifically discussed monogamy. Do I have to tell him that I want to date other people or is that assumed these days? Should I tell him if I go out with someone else? What if I don't have sex? Part of me wants to go with a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. How much information do I owe this sweet boy?
The real question is: What do you owe yourself? Don't you want to achieve the relationship(s) of your dreams? How will you get there if you aren't able to tell your lover what you want?
Unfortunately, the "don't ask, don't tell" policy is en vogue these days. Mainstream society teaches us it's better to tell your mate that he's your one-and-only, even if it's a lie, than to openly love more than one person. Some people seem to think it's more intimate to lie than to share who you really are.
My advice is to be open, honest and loving ... with yourself. Claim your full sexual power by deciding what you want and letting your lovers know what you want. Your honestly might set your sweet boy on fire and make him more attracted to you than ever. A side benefit is that you'll be giving him permission to open up to you sexually in return and there might be an animal in there! You may end up spending the rest of your life with this sweet boy in an exclusive monogamous relationship - but won't your relationship be more alive if you both know that you can share everything with one another?
If he leaves, then you saved yourself a lot of time hiding your true beautiful self, trying to fit into a box that you think another person wants you to be in.
I have to mention safe sex. Everyone owes everyone else full disclosure of the risks of sexually-transmitted-infections. If you aren't telling him that you have exposed him to risk, then you probably aren't telling your other lover. And if you aren't telling, then they probably aren't telling, and so on, and so on, and so on. And that's a deadly pattern.
Thank you for sharing this question, dear reader. I hope you reach your full potential and have the happiest, sexiest, juiciest, most intimate and loving life possible in this Garden of Earthly Delights we call Mother Earth 2009.
I recently had a long overdue fucking and made the best of it, not greedily crunching the lollipop but making it last - somewhere around two or two and a half hours of pretty much full on intercourse, spiced with lots of sucking licking fondling etc.. What is an average length of time for sex to last? What is considered a loooong time? I had a friend who said she had sex for 15 hours straight and not on drugs. Is it normal for couples to go for 5 or 6 hours at a time or would that be considered for pro's only? I've been in hot relationships where 5 or 6 times a day was not unheard of but not for more than 15 min to an hour or so at a time. Waiting two hours to bust a nut is maxing out the anticipation factor and busting one over and over for me gets tougher and tougher. Just having the energy and keeping up the endorphin flow ... missing American Idol ... you get the idea.
Thank you for this juicy question. There are times when you might choose to get your freak on on the fly, for instance if you join the Mile High Club in an airplane or you're in a semi-public place.
But let's focus on the scenic route. One way to nurture your inner-animal and find out how long you can keep a juicy sex scene going is to experiment, experiment, and then experiment some more.
Find one or more partners who agree to experiment with you and plan a whole day or night or maybe a whole weekend. Set aside time when no participant will be interrupted. A spicy and important part of the process is talking with your partner ahead of time and discussing all of the things that get you both hot. This allows you to prepare by gathering your toys, maybe erotic short stories, movies, vibrators, restraints, high heels, strawberries and chocolate. The possibilities are endless.
Once you start, pace yourself, communicate with your partner, experiment with how orgasm affects your pace. The scene can continue with ebbs and flows from erotic fiction to masturbation to intercourse to ... everything that turns one or both of you on. And guess what? Your question is just in time - it's Friday so enjoy your weekend! ;)
What do you get when your Governor rises to power exploiting voters by selling a phony family-values image, profits off the public trust using tax dollars to bang an illicit lover, all the while beating others into sexual compliance?
"Sexual freedom" must be OK for social conservatives if it's done under the cloak of secrecy, involves lying to your family, and you loudly ridicule other people for the same thing. Special recipe: shame, betrayal and hypocrisy.
South Carolina Governor Mark Sanford, bragging about the size of his balls above, admitted in the past few days that he:
lied to his wife repeatedly
engaged in a "forbidden, tragic" sexual encounter
no longer loves his wife
fled his family on Father's Day to bang his mistress
"crossed the line" engaging in sexual conduct with other women
shirked his duties as Governor lying about where he was hiding
used tax dollars to bang his lover
broke his promise to release records showing how he spent tax dollars
“The bottom line, though, is I am sure there will be a lot of legalistic explanations pointing out that the president lied under oath. His situation was not under oath. The bottom line, though, is he still lied. He lied under a different oath, and that is the oath to his wife. So it’s got to be taken very, very seriously.” [Sanford on Livingston, CNN, 12/18/98]
“I think it would be much better for the country and for him personally (to resign). I come from the business side. If you had a chairman or president in the business world facing these allegations, he’d be gone.” [Sanford on Clinton, The Post and Courier, 9/12/98]
“The issue of lying is probably the biggest harm, if you will, to the system of Democratic government, representatives government, because it undermines trust. And if you undermine trust in our system, you undermine everything.” [Sanford on Clinton, CNN, 2/16/99]
Of course, if the Governor's voters in South Carolina do the same thing, they are committing a crime:
SECTION 16-15-60 Adultery or fornication. Any man or woman who shall be guilty of the crime of adultery or fornication shall be liable to indictment and, on conviction, shall be severally punished by a fine of not less than one hundred dollars nor more than five hundred dollars or imprisonment for not less than six months nor more than one year or by both fine and imprisonment, at the discretion of the court.
SECTION 16-15-70 "Adultery" defined. "Adultery" is ... habitual carnal intercourse with each other without living together of a man and woman when either is lawfully married to some other person.
Governor Mark Sanford, congratulations. You are The Juicy Truth's official Pimp of the Week!
I'm a Texas girl who loves to talk about sex. Anonymous questions are fine and your privacy will always be first (see privacy post). Send your question on the form below or email to: question4river@yahoo.com
Have you ever wanted to have sex with someone but just didn't know what you would say? I am ready for sex in all of its aspects except for the conversation. I don't think I would feel comfortable unless it was scripted, at least loosely. Any tips?
I have this fetish for what I like to call Librarian glasses. You know them glasses that Librarians wear, right? Every girl I date, even if she has perfect vision I try to get her to wear the glasses, just wear the glasses, but no, almost all of them start trippin on me, like "MF I ain't wearing no librarian glasses you freak, what the hell wrong with you?" Then the real librarians, and business type women, they want no part of me. So I keep trying. Is something wrong with meeeee? Thanks in advance.
What do you call someone who wears nice suits, has good hair, and likes to exploit other people for personal gain, deriving income from the earnings of those he exploits? This person likes to tell the people he uses for his own ends that he's taking real good care of them.
My sex life is OK but I'm curious about how to make it more fun. Some of my fantasies have taken me in different directions but I don't know whether I'd like to do the things I fantasize about in real life. Do you have any suggestions about how to keep it spicy?
Some holes are safer to lap at than others. When it comes to anal oral sex, any tips on keeping the germs in while staying turned on? I'm looking for tips on keeping it sanitary when licking (or playin with) someones toot hole and still having a good time ... what about handy wipes? or rather rim wipes? 
I support gay rights - in fact I support lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, transexual, queer, questioning, unsure, intersex, asexual and allies (LGBTTQQUIAA) rights. I can't decide whether I am supposed to go see Sasha Baron Cohen's new movie "Bruno." If I do see it, am I supposed to like it or be offended? What is the appropriate reaction?
Ever since high school I haven't been able to figure out what to do with my life. College looks boring but so does everything else. I need an education but all I can think about is finding different ways to make my kinkiest dreams come true. What are my options?
What do you get when you need cash, your friend decides she can sell your body for a percentage of the profits, you decide to play along, and you both have a blast as Detroit sex workers?
I've been dating a guy for a few months and I'm pretty sure he's starting to think we're exclusive. I love spending time with him and the sex is hot. I don't want to lose him but I don't want to miss out on dating other people either. I'm afraid if I tell him he might end our relationship. I haven't lied to him and we haven't made any promises, we just haven't specifically discussed monogamy. Do I have to tell him that I want to date other people or is that assumed these days? Should I tell him if I go out with someone else? What if I don't have sex? Part of me wants to go with a "don't ask, don't tell" policy. How much information do I owe this sweet boy?
I recently had a long overdue fucking and made the best of it, not greedily crunching the lollipop but making it last - somewhere around two or two and a half hours of pretty much full on intercourse, spiced with lots of sucking licking fondling etc.. What is an average length of time for sex to last? What is considered a loooong time? I had a friend who said she had sex for 15 hours straight and not on drugs. Is it normal for couples to go for 5 or 6 hours at a time or would that be considered for pro's only? I've been in hot relationships where 5 or 6 times a day was not unheard of but not for more than 15 min to an hour or so at a time. Waiting two hours to bust a nut is maxing out the anticipation factor and busting one over and over for me gets tougher and tougher. Just having the energy and keeping up the endorphin flow ... missing American Idol ... you get the idea.
What do you get when your Governor rises to power exploiting voters by selling a phony family-values image, profits off the public trust using tax dollars to bang an illicit lover, all the while beating others into sexual compliance?
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